
Looking at engagement rings
Here is a little something for the ladies.
You are sure that you want to get married, you have a boyfriend now how can you make sure your man DOESN’T get you an engagement ring that is too gaudy…or too subtle…or too much like a cigar band?
There are ways of hinting about the engagement ring you want. Here are some ways of making the right suggestion in the right way.
To begin, there’s always the blatant way: “randomly” leave open web pages on your computer that show the ring(s) you would want, a great site is http://www.ritani.com/. You might just so happen to leave open bridal magazines showing pictures of designer engagement rings. This approach works if you know exactly what you want and your heart is set on it. And if you aren’t absolutely sure what you want but go showing pictures, you could likely end up with something you don’t really want, because he thinks you do. So know the risks of the blatant approach.
Next, you can always go shopping together for your ring. You can either go to the mall with the intention of looking at engagement rings or “just so happen” to stop into a jewelry store while at the mall. But, men can have a sense that they are supposed to go shopping for your ring by themselves, and without your knowledge. If he’s one of those, this approach can still work, as long as you don’t try to close the sale that same day–let him get ideas and then go back by himself in the future.
Maybe he has been coming to you for hints about what to buy you in an engagement ring. Yet, you still want some element of surprise. Talk to your sister (or brother) or a close friend who he wouldn’t suspect of anything if they hung out with him. Tell them what you want; let them mention to him what you are thinking about.
Is your man tastefully creative? If so, mention a few ideas about what you want–what kind of metals, gemstones–but then, drop it. Leave it up to him to go out and find something that will make you happy. This is highly romantic for you and will make him feel proud.
Lastly and speaking of being creative and you are sure this is more than your future mate, this is your soul mate? Why not custom design your engagement ring, and your wedding rings, together? These can be the ultimate in personalized expression, and the creative process and discovery process can be more rewarding and more romantic than any traditional surprise offer from him.
Just know yourself and know your man before you decide upon any a course of action.
J.A.ROE